Overcoming Intimidation and Fear in Your Job Search
Looking for a job can be a daunting process filled with self-doubt and negative thoughts. Many of us tell ourselves every negative story about why we won't succeed. We worry about not finding the right job, our resumes not being good enough, or not performing well in interviews. We convince ourselves that employers have already decided against us, that we're not qualified, not ready, or that it's not the right time.
The fear of rejection and the anxiety of starting over in a new job can be overwhelming and paralyzing.
However, it's crucial to remember that we have some control over the job search process. We can decide if the time is right and if we're seeking better alignment between our careers and our personal values, interests, skills and abilities.
We shouldn't let these fears stand in our way, even though they inevitably arise. Instead we have to figure out how to overcome intimidation and fear in our job searches. Here are some tips to do that.
Build a Career Advisory Board (CAB)
One strategy is to create what I call a "career advisory board." These are the people you can turn to when you're ready to give up — those who can talk you down when you're about to make a rash decision. Having a support system in place can help you navigate the emotional ups and downs of the job search.
Apply Even if You Have 50-60% of Qualifications
Acknowledge that fear is often the root of these negative thoughts. You might see a job that seems perfect but hesitate to apply because you only meet 50% of the qualifications. This is especially common among women, who might feel they need to meet all the requirements before applying. In contrast, many millennials approach job hunting with boldness and fearlessness, applying even when they know they don't meet any of the criteria. This is a valuable lesson in taking risks and pursuing opportunities. What do you have to lose, but a little bit of time to apply?
If you have 50-60% percent of the qualifications on the job description – write a strong resume and apply! You don’t need to know everything about the position to qualify.
Embrace the Critique
All job seekers should understand that feeling intimidated and fearful is a natural part of the job search process. Why? The entire process is about you being critiqued and evaluated. Nobody likes to be critiqued, but it's an essential part of growth and finding the right job. Instead of letting this fear paralyze you, use it as motivation to improve and to present the best version of yourself.
In conclusion, while the job search can be intimidating and filled with fear, it's important to build a supportive network, and confront your fears head-on.
By doing so, you can navigate the job market more effectively and increase your chances of finding a position that aligns with your skills and values.
Use Job Rejections as a Learning Opportunity
The thought of rejection can really contribute to feeling fear and intimidation in the job search. This is a natural part of the job search process. It’s important not to interpret rejections as a reflection of your qualifications or abilities. Instead, view each rejection as a learning opportunity to refine your approach. Know that not every job is for you. Recruiters are doing their thing and you need to do yours. You have permission to sulk for up to 24 hours and then you move on.
Feedback and Improvement: If possible, seek feedback from interviewers to understand areas for improvement. Use this feedback to enhance your resume and interview skills.
Presenting Qualifications: Clearly articulate your strengths and how they align with the job requirements. Avoid assuming that recruiters understand your qualifications without explanation. Tie your qualifications and experience to the details in the job descriptions. Be prepared to discuss how your skills and experiences make you a suitable candidate.
Body Language and Attitude: Pay attention to your body language and demeanor during interviews. Present yourself confidently but avoid coming across as arrogant or disinterested.
Keep at it!
Dr. Marcia F. Robinson, SPHR, SHRM-SCP is the CEO of The HBCU Career Center. She’s an award-winning HR and leadership expert with 25 years of experience in HR and Career Development Education. Known as Dr. R, she’s on a mission to make workplaces more inclusive and to help professionals find welcoming spaces that align with their V.I.S.A. (Values, Interests, Skills and Abilities).